Does it? Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? I started thinking about it because there are quite a few blogs I follow. Really good, insightful thoughts out there and I like to ‘like’ the post when I read it and do. That was how I started this blog in the first place – I wanted to ‘like’ something I read. You cannot do that unless you are a blogger….
Back to the issue at hand; for days now I cannot like anything! Zip, Nada. Thus, this post is an experiment; I want to see if I can ‘like’ something after breathing life back into this thing! 😉 Now, apparently absence does not make WordPress any fonder of me – rather, it choses to ignore me (pending experiment, of course).
How do you react? Does your heart grow fonder thinking about the one whose missing? My hubby and I had a long distance courtship. I couldn’t stop thinking about him 🙂 We didn’t settle for absence; we were on the phone for hours and driving most every weekend to be together. Maybe that’s how it works — we worked at our relationship because we had to in order for there to be one (thus growing fonder because of our investment?). It was alot easier to fall in a rut and take each other for granted, I suppose, after we got married. I remember complaining that before we were married my hubby could finish my sentences, always knew what I was thinking, and could call me at the exact time I needed him. Why was that a complaint?? Because after we married he lost the ability to speak my language (and I, his I’m sure); he didn’t seem to know me at all! All these misunderstandings and unmet expectations. UGH! We had stopped thinking about the other and started focusing on ourselves.
Now, there’s a stink that will rile any stingbug!!
Instead, let’s do an experiment – wake up that blog! put your mate first! grow those hearts fonder!!
“Many will charge that dragging up the past is fruitless and wastes time on things that are best forgotten…but emotional wounds are like physical ones: They do not heal if they are neglected; they only become infected and can become life damaging. The hurt must be brought into the light and treated.” ~Albert Haase
Ever wondered why you do the things you do, react the way you react, interpret the way you interpret? Our learned behaviors seem normal, we feel normal. Small hurts, we might go on and on about, looking for validation from others. BIG hurts, we hide them, afraid something is wrong with us or this wouldn’t have happened. What comes next? Insecurity, doubt, guilt, perhaps paranoia? I suspect these are among the bacteria of emotional wounds. We can’t cover them – deeper, deeper we try to; but like it or not we become enslaved to the very thing we’re trying to get away from.
Whats lurking under your skin? Bring it to Jehovah Rapha, the God Who Heals – our Great Physician and get exposed to the Light. Infection gone. Healing begun.
There is a love story about a commoner and a princess (that’s the way all the things go, isn’t it?) and his reply to all she asked of him was: “as you wish”. Jerniah 26:14 says, “As for me, I am in Your hands; do with me whatever you think is good & right.” Does that hit you like it does me?! Complete surrender of my life. Good & right….that’s good, right? But what if my definition of good is different than His?? We actually can be sure of this because scripture also tells us His ways are not our ways & His thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8). It’s no trouble at all to say “As You wish” when pain, discomfort, or any other unpleasant thing isn’t involved. Can I trust Him in the midst of risk? Yes…if I know His Character. No wonder He delights in the time I spend with Him, for it enables me to know Him – and if I know Him, I can trust Him!!
How goes it for you? Feel like saying ‘as you wish’?