Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Does it? Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? I started thinking about it because there are quite a few blogs I follow. Really good, insightful thoughts out there and I like to ‘like’ the post when I read it and do. That was how I started this blog in the first place – I wanted to ‘like’ something I read. You cannot do that unless you are a blogger….

Back to the issue at hand; for days now I cannot like anything! Zip, Nada. Thus, this post is an experiment; I want to see if I can ‘like’ something after breathing life back into this thing! 😉  Now, apparently absence does not make WordPress any fonder of me – rather, it choses to ignore me (pending experiment, of course).

How do you react? Does your heart grow fonder thinking about the one whose missing? My hubby and I had a long distance courtship. I couldn’t stop thinking about him 🙂 We didn’t settle for absence; we were on the phone for hours and driving most every weekend to be together. Maybe that’s how it works — we worked at our relationship because we had to in order for there to be one (thus growing fonder because of our investment?). It was alot easier to fall in a rut and take each other for granted, I suppose, after we got married. I remember complaining that before we were married my hubby could finish my sentences, always knew what I was thinking, and could call me at the exact time I needed him. Why was that a complaint?? Because after we married he lost the ability to speak my language (and I, his I’m sure); he didn’t seem to know me at all! All these misunderstandings and unmet expectations. UGH! We had stopped thinking about the other and started focusing on ourselves.

Now, there’s a stink that will rile any stingbug!!  Instead, let’s do an experiment – wake up that blog! put your mate first!  grow those hearts fonder!!

Oww, Now…

…my head hurts!!

I like to read devotionals. I find them uplifting and often so relatable. Relatable can come with zings – like conviction. Another sorta related zing is condemnation. Conviction is profitable for growth & brings maturity if embraced. Condemnation, on the other hand, is a tool to get one to become preoccupied with one’s self – amply used by Satan to render useless an otherwise happy child of God. One can mean a victory and the other a defeat; while using the same material.

I read this quote by Larry Crabb this morning: “Feeling better has become more important to us than finding God.”

Yup, that’s what did it; what made my head hurt trying to get my mind around it. Just before that I was focused on the chronic pain I live with. Do you see what zinged me? I am so saturated with the desire to feel better I’m not looking for God in my situation.

Is this the first time I realized this with this situation? Noooo, but I forgot already. Wouldn’t you think I’d remember? That’s what I thought about the Israelites running around in the desert.  ‘Didn’t God just part the Red Sea for you guys?? Why are you doubting Him now? You’d rather be back in Egypt?? What about food falling from the sky?’  Had thoughts of your own like that? I’d say our perception of ‘feeling better’ being more important than finding God has been around for a long time.

He is El Shaddai – Sufficient for all my needs; Jehovah Shalom – God of Peace; Adonai – Master of everything; Jehovah Rapha – the God Who Heals, El Roi – the God Who Sees, Jehovah Rohi – Shepherd God, and the list goes on and on. You have a need? He whispers ‘Come closer and know Me!’ 

You will seek me and find me when you search for me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:13