Wise Sayings

Proverbs is known for wise sayings. Two of these feel particularly personal ~ I think you may guess why:

21:19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife .

25:24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

I realized they might be personal the first time my husband read them and then proceeded to double over in laughter. Me? quarrelsome?

I am gifted in identifying what is wrong and knowing how to fix it…. Occasionally I might have to explain – repeatedly….

Truth is I struggled with controlling my man. I’ve been in situations where I didn’t have control and I got hurt – badly. I could not let that happen again. Control was my friend, control was security. Thing is I didn’t feel secure and this friend was causing me loads of problems. The harder I fought for it the more it evaded me.  I had not learned God had a plan; I had not learned that uncovering my pain would bring healing.

My husband, MY husband, could totally relate to living in a desert or on the roof rather than daily with me! This really was a surprise to me. I am totally serious, I didn’t know. My guess is there are lots of women who aren’t aware they are driving their own wedges in their relationships.  God has lots of instructions for His design in His word. Thing is they are not only wise sayings – they are hard sayings. Hard because His ways are not our ways & His thoughts are not our thoughts….they are far better! But to find that out you must exercise faith and chose to trust. Not in your spouse – he’s mistake prone just like you – but in your BIG God!

Do you dare show your husband these two wise sayings? Let the healing begin!



The Quiet Woman…

Men laugh at that – do you know that? There’s a little store near me that has that exact same name AND the woman is headless…..only a bonnet where a head should be. I never have found this as funny as male counterparts do. I know this is very telling about me but before I hang myself alone – it’s not just the males in my family 🙂

I have been quiet as far as writing is concerned. I’ve had surgery & rather than fill my time by seeing something each day in black & white on my computer screen I chose other things. Mostly sleep and mindless TV shows. I say mindless because I sit soaking it up without thinking. Here’s what I know for it: Soap Opera – everyone has either been married to or slept with everyone else, all the while remaining friends; Nick Berkus can fix anything & gives away tons of money; Dr. Phil has troubling stories & will fund the assistance for healing – for the opportunity of displaying that which you want to get rid of; Women are very concerned about weight & wrinkles along with occasional embarrassing things – Dr. Oz; People want money & vacations for what they know – Wheel of Fortune & Jeopardy; Others want fame & the money that goes with it – The Voice.

There were some high points when I pulled away long enough to read & meditate on God.

Notice anything?

What’s your day look like?

There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death. Proverbs 14:12